i had an english teacher who told me, "there are no true synonyms. every word has its own nuance"
what does it mean to miss someone? if she missed me in a way that meant she wanted to get back together, that would only indicate an unnecessary attachment to past modes and routines, distracting her from the opportunitites inherent in the good paths we've moved on to. if she missed me in a way that merely acknowledged a pleasant history, the sentiment would be shared, even expected ("by the book"), but, it occurs to me, equally inconsequential.
inconsequential does not mean the same thing as trvial. such a thing is merely without consequence, insufficient to arouse action. it may still be non-trivial, but any appreciation is subjective, fleeting. it is no catalyst. in the expanse between now and death, it changes nothing.